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In This Episode Our participants share with their current and past significant others how they’re healing from cheating in their relationships and how they feel about it.
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Actually, no. That's a lie.
I think the reason is that we broke up?
What do you think about why we broke up?
Yeah. - Your point of view?
Oh, God, this is horrible.
let me think about this for a second.
Because in your position,
you weren't really happy about.
I didn't love you anymore.
like we were in a bad spot.
We were, like, barely talking.
it was just about superficial,
Like stuff that we normally don't...
Yeah, we're not surface people,
and we normally have a good time
It wasn't a good time anymore.
So I feel like that's part of the reason
why you decided to come clean.
nothing to lose at this point.
Now that she hates me anyway. - She hates-
Or maybe that's in there.
I don't know. But- - I mean...
Yeah. - Like, why at that time?
Yeah, like, did you just, like, wake up
Can’t take it anymore. - As time went on...
Of course, we felt the split in the room.
We were definitely drifting apart.
up, and it's not fair for me
you knowing that I fucked it up.
clip your wings for my errors?
My fuck up kind of made me self-conscious
about everything, every little thing.
About, like, physically and... - Everything.
Like- - Everything you did?
Because I was like... - Like what?
but my mess up made me think
Why did you cheat on me so many times?
Boy, why did I cheat on you
I didn't cheat on you so many times.
And I never slept with anybody else.
I never slept with anybody else. - You didn’t?
Hand stu- Oh! - Hand stuff.
See, I'm still upset about it.
I know. - It fucking sucks.
But hey, I never slept with anybody else.
That's fucking gross, man.
I never said it wasn't. I just said that-
I feel like the question implies
so many things so many times,
I did... like I would say a few.
When- when something says
so many times, that implies
like sex addict or something.
Just own up to it, tho. Like-
Well, I also want to give you a clear
maybe of what you don't know.
And I think it's because I
I'm always going to regret.
That's something if I could take back,
that's something I would.
come over to her house, never would have
and never would have done
anything like that with her.
I know how much it hurts you.
I'm actually over it now.
But at the time that was hard.
It's still something that's not right.
or physical cheating is worse?
I feel like both is worse.
something like that, once
to be honest with you about it because
it's something I couldn't
times in our relationship.
That was during long distance.
It was during the long distance, yes.
And you know about this too.
I like emotionally cheated,
where I was, like, feeling
really detached from you.
hesitant to talk to me about?
I was waiting for this question.
this isn't that big of a deal
two weeks before we broke up,
No, because I didn't want to tell you.
I don't think that bothers me.
I mean, maybe it does a little bit, but
It's in the past now. - Yeah.
you might have told me that. - I didn’t.
Why do you think...? - Maybe I'm just a psychic?
Maybe it just came off in
When was the last time you considered
ending this relationship,
Wait, you want to talk about this?
I mean, I know the reason and when it was. - Yes.
whenever you were actually here
for schooling and you lied to me
about having a Snapchat account
and then I found said Snapchat account
and then you were talking to
or trying to talk to other women.
Yeah, that was a hard one.
Um, took a lot for me to, like,
figure out if I wanted to stay with you
I guess. Still hurts a little bit.
I already told you that before,
but I chose to stay with you
because there was so much to lose.
I know that you're a good person
and you don't mean to do hurtful things.
You just don't understand
sometimes that you're doing
Yeah, that's part of the reason I'm
working on everything and I
Yeah, and then I made you quit drinking.
Uh, uh. I told you. You had an ultimatum.
I let myself into help. - Mmhm.
Hit me. Go ahead. - Um...
What would you do if I cheated on you?
What did I do? - Alright.
and send you to the clinic.
What would you do if I cheated on you?
I answered that before. - No, me. Me.
Yeah. - Not realistically.
What would you do if I cheated on you
Realistically. What I did to you.
Talk to you and then send you to the clinic.
What would you do realistically?
and make sure it don't go viral.
when I say what I would do
I wouldn't know what the fuck I’d do.
I wouldn’t know what to do.
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