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In This Episode
In this episode, couples share what they look forward to in their upcoming weddings and the planning journey they’ve been on: including preparation shenanigans and the excitement of starting a life together.
Transcript
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When you close your eyes
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and imagine our wedding, what do you see?
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I picture the venue.
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I picture the lighting, which is strange.
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That is weird.
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So weird.
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I picture it
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from, like, the back of the room.
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So I can, like, see us.
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I picture...
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Basically what we'll be wearing
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and standing there.
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And I sort of feel like
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when I picture it,
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it feels like
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no one else is in the room except us
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and _________. Even though I know
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there's all these people
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that are being invited
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and I'm so excited to see and-
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but the actual...
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what I want to picture.
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I picture the actual ceremony.
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What does this wedding
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really mean to you?
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Health insurance.
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I love you.
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Good health insurance.
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I've got that good health insurance.
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I want that Sesame insurance.
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This wedding means to me?
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Yeah.
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Fucking growing up, being a fucking adult,
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I guess...
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taking shit seriously for once
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and following through with it.
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Yeah. - That's good stuff.
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Yeah.
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Plus, you give me so many bits
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from my stand up.
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I know, it's like an endless
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well of material. - I feel like.
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our wedding day
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is going to be like,
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a 20 minute bit. - It's going to be like...
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That's your special right there.
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That's your Comedy Central special. - That's how I'm
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gonna get my HBO special.
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Yeah. - Yeah.
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I'm thinking way beyond Comedy Central.
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I know.
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I want HBO. - You're like: No, no, HBO... it's an hour.
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Yeah.
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How do you really feel about the wedding?
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What's your biggest fear
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regarding the wedding?
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My biggest fear.
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That's easy.
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My biggest fear
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regarding the wedding
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is the same fear that I have with
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our whole relationship,
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the aforementioned, am I
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going to screw something up?
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What am I going to do
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that's gonna-
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that's going to screw this up?
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Like what's going to be like
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and- and even,
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you know,
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leading to the wedding, post wedding,
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the whole thing.
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What ridiculous thing am I going to do
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that's going to screw it up
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or what outside thing will happen?
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Like what?
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You know, unknown about love
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child
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is going to show up on our doorstep.
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And I'm not saying
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that's ever going to happen.
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There's no reality of that.
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But that's where my head goes, like,
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what if I trip and fall
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and then your dress is ruined?
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Or, you know,
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I don't have any stress
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whatsoever about the actual marriage.
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Okay.
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It's all the wedding that freaks me out.
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I'm not freaked out, I just-
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So the first question is,
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how do you really feel about the wedding?
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The wedding. - Is that fear?
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The wedding ceremony?
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Feeling fear?
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It's- I feel like that's
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what the wedding
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industrial complex has led me to.
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Sure.
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You suppose
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every email
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that I get that's sayin: hey, Andrew, 130 days out.
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130 days out, you're supposed to do this.
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You're supposed to have this done
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this, that, this.
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And I feel like I have a lot
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I honestly I feel like
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I've let a lot of that up to you.
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When you think ahead to our wedding,
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what excites you the most?
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I didn't tell you what did excite me
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that I'm so sad that I think won't happen
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is the melding of our families.
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That's all I ever wanted.
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That's the only reason I wanted this
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big wedding.
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That's what I was looking forward to.
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But what I'm.
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That was the question, right?
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What excites you? - What excites me?
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But what really excites me
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is just being married to you.
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Just finally being Mrs. _____________.
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Which I've had that email,
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I've had that email address since.
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You have- really? - Oh yeah.
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Izumi ___________. Who do you think this is?
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Oh! Had that.
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But it's been sitting
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sitting on the shelf.
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That's what excites me.
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Just being your wife,
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just be- just waking up
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in the morning,
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the morning after and being like,
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Oh, my God!
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I'm finally your wife! - Yeah.
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Here, you're fucking stuck with me forever, sucker!
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