Joy (she/her) and Andrew (he/him) have been marching to their own beat throughout their whole relationship. This video is an ode to the journey they’ve been through together as seen on their conversations on {THE AND}: navigating if marriage was for them, quitting their jobs, and even embarking into an adventure full of spontaneous decisions.
As we explore new perspectives we invite you to step into the emotional space of connection and experience the deeper lessons that shared experiences can afford humanity. To everyone who has participated openly and vulnerably in our project - we appreciate what you have shared with us and hope others do as well.
Video Transcript
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Ooh.
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Do we have enough sex?
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Enough sex?
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Is there ever enough sex?
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I don't feel like I'm missing out.
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I don't feel like-
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I knew you're going to say that.
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No, but
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I don't feel like I'm
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missing out on anything.
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There aren't necessarily times
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where I'm like: dammit.
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If only we have had sex.
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I think that
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you know, in taking the long view,
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there's going to be plenty of opportunity
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for me to screw up.
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And for us to have sex.
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For me to screw up, too.
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Well, And for you to have sex.
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And for me to say no to sex,
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which I've never done.
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You're allowed to, though.
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You're allowed to do that.
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It's not some patriarchal thing
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where it's like...
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What do you remember
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about the first time we met?
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I remember
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that I was going to be the cool one
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because it just seemed more natural.
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And then I spilled a drink.
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Really? - That's what I remember.
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All right.
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I can't believe that that's what came to
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my mind first.
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That's not the first thing I remember.
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I would not
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have probably thought of that.
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I don't know
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what my answer would have been.
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I don't know.
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It would have been awkward.
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It was all awkward.
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It was very awkward the first time.
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You kept saying that.
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Oh, you ready for this?
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I guess.
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What are you hesitant to tell me?
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What am I hesitant to tell you?
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Right now or ever?
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I'm going to say ever.
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I'm going to go ahead and make that call.
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Hmm.
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I don't know.
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It's always difficult to tell you...
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Difficult if not impossible
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to tell you if something that you've done
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has bothered me.
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Like what? - And that might be me.
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It might not be you. - Give me an example.
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It might be my perception of you.
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I can't think of one right off the
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Top of my head. - 'Cause I'm a ball buster. - A little bit.
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