Twins discuss what makes their relationship unique and how their connection has impacted them throughout their lives.
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You know what's wild is that
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I knew you like, honestly,
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we knew each other
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before we were even born
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because we were in the womb together,
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which is really crazy.
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Yeah. - Womb-mates!
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We were womb-mates!
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We were womb-mates!
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How do we express our love differently?
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And how do you think
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it affects our relationship?
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Uh, we kind of just talked about it.
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We talked about it.
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You express your love.
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Um,
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very intensely,
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very vividly and obviously and intensely
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with everyone and family,
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including family.
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But since I'm more reserved
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with this kind of expression,
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sometimes I get overwhelmed by it.
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Mm hmm.
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So sometimes I'm like: ugh, Camila.
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Calm down, or stop,
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you know, like, um. And so that way-
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You have to tell me to stop that.
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No, it's just when you send, like,
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50 emojis in a row
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and, like, everything in caps
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Okay.
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What about our relationship
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do you never want to forget?
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I don't want to forget that, like...
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Like, we will always be together.
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I hope.
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Oh, God.
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We'll be together.
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Knock on wood, dude. There's a bunch of wood here.
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Yeah, I know, but I'm just, like.
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I just always want to, like,
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always have that connection,
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you know, like,
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even if somebody comes
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into our life, it's, like, easy to focus
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on the other person, but, like,
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I always want to
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remember that we're here for each other.
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You know? So... Yeah.
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Which I think is easy to forget because
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we're twins, you know?
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So I always think it'd be good-
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Yeah, we take that for granted.
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So I don't want you to forget that.
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Yeah.
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What's something
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we carry that we should both let go of?
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OCD
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or, um, more
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specifically, the need to understand
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the need to be understood
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100% by each other.
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Yes.
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Also, I would be okay
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with just not being understood.
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That's the OCD therapy too, it's like:
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I will probably understand
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in the morning. - Yeah.
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But maybe not. - But maybe not.
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But that's okay too. - Yeah.
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The probability is that
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we will understand
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even if we never talk about it again.
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But there is a possibility
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that- - Yeah.
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we won't. And that's good. - Oh well, so what?
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Yeah, exactly.
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Yeah.
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Like just the stuff
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we do with our friends. - Exactly.
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Yeah.
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So I don't have to 100% understand
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to like love my friends.
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Yeah. It's just hard.
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I think the fear of like losing that,
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like, I don't want you as my friend.
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I want you as my twin sister, which is... - Twin sister.
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such a unique thing.
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You know, there's
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this fear of losing
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the twin sister thing that's like
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we 100% understand each other
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and because that's what it felt like.
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Yeah.
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But I'm also like, looking back
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when we were kids... we probably didn't.
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Yeah.
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We just, our parents would settle our fights.
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Yeah.
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And then it would be over,
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you know,
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now it's like we have to settle them.
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Yeah, yeah. - Yeah.
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Oh, my gosh.
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Okay.
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How would our relationship be different
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if we weren't twins?
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I think about that sometimes.
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I've never thought about that
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really...
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Like, if we were just regular sisters
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or, like, if we didn't have the same face.
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I feel like if anything,
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um, I don't really know.
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Yeah, I don't really know
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if it would change our relationship
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as long as we were, like,
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the same age,
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or at least
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even if we were, like, a year between.
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Yeah.
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I feel like we would still probably
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carry ourselves. If anything,
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it probably changes the perception
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of the world... - Right.
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How they perceive us. - Yeah.
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So it wouldn't be so much like-
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But then
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maybe it would change
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because we would
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have different experiences.
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Even if I was a year younger than you,
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I'd be in a different grade.
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We've done a lot of the same.
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You know... - 'Cause we're the same age.
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Right.
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So it's not like,
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oh, you're off to high school
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and I'm still in middle school
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or whatever.
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Like, that is like we are,
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because that would have been
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a completely different experience for you
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because you would
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be going to a different school,
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doing it by yourself.
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You know?
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So I don't know.
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Yeah, I see that. - But yeah.
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Okay.
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Um, if we weren't twins, just strangers,
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do you think we would be friends?
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No. - Really?
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I don't think we would be friends.
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We've talked about this.
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I don't remember talking about this. - Remember?
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In high school.
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We would talk about it
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and we would be like,
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if we were in high school together
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and we weren't sisters,
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we wouldn't even talk to each other.
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Well, maybe in high school,
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but I'm talking about, like,
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if as adults, you know,
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do you think- or no?
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I don't know.
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I think in this past year,
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I feel like I've gotten out of the going
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every- going out every night,
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every weekend
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phase, I mean, like, during that-
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No, you didn't.
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You- that was not your scene. So
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I would obviously be missing out.
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Not saying that.
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I don't
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I just don't think
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that we would have ever found each other
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to even be friends.
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You know, I am so glad that we are
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because I feel like
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I would be a completely different person.
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I feel like you, like,
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bring me back down a little bit.
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Sometimes reality
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like really like ground me.
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And you also feel like
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you show me like this
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whole other world
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of, like, creativity and like art.
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And I am so thankful for that.
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Like, I love when we go to art museum
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and I'm like, Liz, who
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painted this?
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I don't know, but like, I just
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when would I ever experience that?
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you know,
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it's like mom and dad are like, yeah,
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I went to art school, but like, it's
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not like they're really, like,
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in the arts, like in the
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culture, you know what I mean?
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I don't know.
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I just like- I feel very lucky
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I do too.
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What do I bring to you, Liz?
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Going out? No? Okay.
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I probably get you out of your comfort zone
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a little.
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Mm hmm.
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Mm that's
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just funny to hear you say that.
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You know, that
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you don't think- I'm not insulted,
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because if I really- - Do you think that we would be?
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If I'm really honest with myself,
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I guess I
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I would love to say yes,
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but I guess
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if I'm really honest with myself,
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I think you're probably right.
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Well, I think
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because I know that
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if we weren't sisters,
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we would be different.
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I would be even more extreme...
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whatever.
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And you would be more
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even the other extreme.
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We kind of bring each other back
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a little bit and mix, you know?
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Yeah.
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How did you feel
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the night
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that you came out to me
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and I was on my video game playing 2K
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and you say, Hey, Kobe,
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I got to tell you something...
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It was very coordinated.
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And how did you feel
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when I freaked...
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I freaked out
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because when you told me
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that, you came out to me,
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that was in, like, I'm like what?
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Like,
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I freaked out and I went and told mom and dad.
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How did you feel?
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It just
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I probably would have...
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it would have been
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because you is my person
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like you is my twin brother.
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I didn't come out to my sisters.
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I didn't come out to mom.
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Or Dad.
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I didn't come out to my best friend.
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I came out to you
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because you is my twin brother
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and you is the person I thought
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I was going to go
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through high school with.
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And I was going to be 100% myself and
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then to realize, like, damn, like,
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he was
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he looked at you,
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you looked at me like I was a monster.
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Like there's something wrong with me.
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And
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I remember
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I remember that day
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like it was yesterday.
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I mean, I've
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definitely gotten over it,
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but it could have been worse
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you know, like,
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what if you wan't my brother?
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What if we-
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I feel like
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if I- if I was in your shoes,
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me and you would not be talking to this day,
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like.
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Mm.
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I was overly
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I was overdramatic
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about the whole situation.
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I mean, I apologize.
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Like, I don't
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I don't know if I ever apologized.
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I'm sorry
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I did that because, like,
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- It's okay. - If you did that, to me,
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I probably wouldn't talk to
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you because that's big.
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Like, you came out to me, you told me,
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like,
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that was big, and I just
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ran to mom and dad and I was like, bro, Kyle is...
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